It's Time to Man-Up

Can I tell you how upset, frustrated, angry I am?  I am tired of adults, men and women, having children they are not willing to take care of.  I don't care about the circumstances you had your children under, what I care about is that you man-up and take care of them.  It's time for you to stop saying you want to be an adult and just act like one.

I was reading an article online  about the surprising number of children who are at risk from toxic stress.  They are saying this stress can "change the brain and it can interfere with learning and lead to disease in adulthood".  This is not normal stress:  homework, activities & school.  This is children seeing and experiencing things a lot of adults haven't been through.  The numbers listed in the article are staggering. 

Here's what they say & this is directly quoted from the article:
  • More than 1 in 4 U.S. kids experience a serious traumatic event by the age of 16, including abuse, neglect and household or neighborhood violence, according to the National Center for Child Traumatic Stress.
  • More than 1 in 5 children have experienced at least two of these traumas and are more likely than others to have school difficulties, along with health and behavioral problems, a 2014 study found.
  • Nearly half of U.S. children younger than 18 live in families at or near the poverty level, U.S. Census data show.
  • The number of U.S. children in foster care climbed steadily after 2011, reaching nearly 430,000 in 2015, the most recent government data show. Neglect was the reason in nearly two-thirds of cases, with most of the rest due to drug abuse, according to a 2016 government report. Authorities believe the opioid epidemic has contributed to the trend.
All of the factors listed can be traced back to mom & dad not doing their job.  It's not a child's responsibility to take care of themselves, it's ours.  This is going on in every neighborhood in our country & it's time for it to stop.  Come on mom & dad, you can do this.  And if for some reason you can't, don't be afraid to ask for help.  There people out there who want to help you help your children!

Ok, rant over.
Celebrating life & the blessings that I call my children,
~ashley 

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